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Resentment Usually Starts With Us

Dec 15, 2025
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I used to think resentment meant someone wronged me.
They didn’t pull their weight.
They didn’t appreciate what I did.
They should’ve known better.

But every time I slowed down and looked closer, I found the same thing:
I had made a choice I didn’t actually want to make.

I said yes when I wanted to say no.
I agreed to help when I was already maxed.
I stayed quiet to avoid tension.

No one forced me.
I just didn’t want to feel uncomfortable in the moment.
So I said yes and dealt with resentment later.

That’s the deal resentment offers: short-term comfort, long-term tension.

When I finally started owning my choices by defining what I wanted, what I didn’t, and what I was truly available for, the resentment dropped fast.
Not because people changed.
Because I did.

Resentment wasn’t about them.
It was about me stepping out of alignment.

Try this:
Think of one place you feel resentful.
Ask yourself:

“What choice did I make that I didn’t want to make?”

That’s where your clarity starts.

Want to dig deeper?
The ACE Assessment helps you see where you trade truth for comfort and how to lead yourself back into alignment. https://www.bethoughtly.com/ace-assessment

Believing in you,
Allison

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