You’re Not Lying About What You Want. You’re Just Not Doing It.
I’m working with a team right now, and there’s one person I keep coming back to.
Every conversation, they say the right things. “I want more partnership.” “I want us to work as a team.” “I want better flow.”
Then a meeting starts.
They interrupt before anyone finishes a thought. They shoot down ideas before considering them. They lecture the room on how things “should” go. When someone pushes...
Communication Isn’t the Problem. It’s the Alibi.
“Communication” is rarely the problem. It’s usually the alibi.
You’ve sat in that meeting. "We just need to communicate better." So you add a status update. Another sync. A shared doc nobody opens. Weeks later, the tension’s still there. Someone’s still defensive. Something you already said twice still didn’t happen.
Here’s why. Being specific is exposing
“I need you to own this project m...
You're Not Building Buy-In. You're Just Convincing People Nicely.
You keep handing your team podcasts, posts, programs. Good ones. The kind that changed how you think.
And you keep waiting for the shift. The initiative. The ownership.
It doesn't come the way you expect.
Here's the belief that was quietly running the show: if I just find them the right resource, they'll get it. Made sense. Felt generous, even. But it was never true. I believed it for years bef...
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