The Ship That Wasn't Mine

A few years ago, I was part of a program led by a dynamic, inspiring leader, the kind you’d move mountains for.

I loved the work.
I loved the team.
I loved the freedom to make it my own.

Then the executive team cut costs and removed that leader.
They said the program could run without him.

I was torn.
I wanted to serve my customers, but without him, it didn’t feel right.
Still, I stayed out of duty.
Because I’m not a quitter.

Over time, the program unraveled.
It felt like being stuck on a sinking ship, bailing water as fast as I could.

I told my executive coach how trapped I felt.
She looked at me and said,
“Allison… this isn’t your ship.”

Boom. Truth bomb.

That snapped me out of my false integrity.
I realized I was staying out of obligation, not alignment.
So I made the hard choice to jump ship, leaving behind people I cared about.

It wasn’t easy.
But the moment I did, the weight lifted.
My energy came back.
I felt like myself again.

Sometimes we mistake endurance for integrity.
We tell ourselves we’re doing the right thing when, really, we’re abandoning ourselves in slow motion.

That’s what we unpack inside The Thoughtly Lab — a year-long experience for leaders who are done living by obligation and ready to live in alignment.

The next Lab kicks off November 14.
The first step is to take the Authentic Confidence Assessment and spend an hour with me unpacking your results.

👉 https://www.bethoughtly.com/ace-assessment

Believing in you,
Allison