What your planning style is really saying

It’s not about the plan.

No plan says, "If I stay easy and adaptable, I’ll be needed." So I adjust. I accommodate. I don’t say what I want.

All plan says, "I don’t trust this will get done unless I do it." So I decide. I move. I don’t really bring people in.

Different strategies. Same outcome.

I carry it.

Alone.

Here’s what I had to see.

If I’m doing it alone, it’s NOT leadership.

If I’m doing it alone, it’s NOT a relationship.

Both require more than one person actually carrying the work.

There is another option.

Partnership.

Making space for what I want AND making space for what others want. Finding a way forward that works for all of us.

It’s tougher at first, because it asks us to slow down, to say what we want, and to stay in it with others. It can feel like writing with your other hand. Unnatural at first. And, just like most things, it does becomes easier with practice.

What would it look like to have a plan and let people shape it with you?

If this hit, it’s not random. This is a pattern. And patterns don’t change by thinking about them. They change when you can see them clearly and start practicing something different. That’s exactly what we do inside the Thoughtly Lab.

You’ll start with the ACE Assessment, which shows you where you tend to operate when you’re under pressure, over-accommodating, or taking too much on.

Start here: https://bethoughtly.mykajabi.com/ace

Or, if you’d rather talk it through first, schedule a 15-minute call with me.

https://calendly.com/allison-garner/brainstorm-session

In your corner,

Allison